Ok so my husband has custody of his 11 year old twins, one is a boy and one is a girl. When they go everyother weekend to visit their mom, who lives about 90 miles away, they sleep together in the same bed- or sleep with their mom- if her boyfriend isn't sleeping over. My husband asked her this past Friday to PLEASE not allow the kids to sleep together. She said they don't and told the kids to also tell him that. When the kids came back into our care on Sunday, they said they lied to us because their mom was angry that they told us about the sleeping arrangements. She also yelled and screamed at them all the way to her place in the car because of this. So she flat out lied to him and had the kids lie to their father. In the custody papers, it states that she can have onvernights only when she has proper accomodations for them. Would this be considered proper? My step son goes and talks to a pychologist every two weeks- he was just diagnosed with ADHD. His dr. said that if she can't follow their dad's request to not allow them to sleep together, then she shouldn't have them until she does have beds ( or even just a sleeping bag for EACH of them). She is currently living with a friend of hers, this friend says she wants her out soon. So the kids mom is planning on moving in with a new boyfriend. He has a boy and a girl also. So my step kids will have rooms once she moves, but that won't be for another month or so... My question I guess is, opinions are more then welcome.... should he allow the over nights to continue.... or have her just visit the kids until she moves and has beds for them?
