Posted by Richito (216.192.40.84) on July 27, 2001 at 12:01:36:
I read as much as possible every day. You have so many links (that's a good thing)on your site and I try to learn more every day. I have taken your advice and am rescheduling alot of my time so I can have my son over for overnight visits more often. In fact, I'm picking him up in 2 1/2 hours! I've read MI divorce lawyer's 12 custody factors. It seems my wife and I are a "tie". I do have a moral dilemma though...
If I fight for custody and beat the odds to win at least temporary custody, do you know what the precedents are as far as me receiving child support to help pay for childcare. Without this financial assistance, my realistic concerns are that I will be placing my son in daycare or with a babysitter from 8am-1030pm, and not even seeing him except to say goodnight and to get him ready the next morning to go to daycare and me off to work again. I hate to say it but I'd rather have my son with my sister-in-law who is very doting, caring, and loving with him. My only apparent strategy is to somehow delay the move by filing for divorce, and hopefully my wife will try to make a life somewhere (anywhere) in CA, but if push comes to shove, I'll have to seriously consider whether my son being in daycare all day and all night is truly in his best interest. The only other problem...and it's a BIG one...is that I wouldn't see him as often. The reason that I am simply not hiring an attorney and immediately getting emboiled in a knock-down custody fight, even though I would love to simply fight for my son in my life, is that I need to not merely fight fast and hard, but I need to fight smart with what limited financial resources I have. Bankrupting myself and my wife is not going to ultimately be in our son's best interests either.
My moving is always a last resort, but for now...
Can anyone think of ANY other options?