Re: Yippee!
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CD
on November 04, 2001 at 09:41:26:
I am happy that you have made some important decisions, yet chagrined at the same time, because what you are effectively doing is declaring war. I certainly understand that this is the proper thing to do in your case, and that you probably have little other choice. I certainly commend you for taking the bull by the horns. However, custody war, or any other war is no cause for jubilation. There will be no quick victory, no knockout punch, this is a war of attrition. It doesn't matter who shoots off the most fireworks at the beginning, what matters is who has enough money and energy to fight the end game. Four years later, I am still not at the end game. I pray for you.
If there is any way you can avoid court, then do it. But I also understand if you have no choice, as men are frequently left with few choices in court. Fight for full, settle for joint. Anytime you can get the other side to agree to true joint (neither parent primary, approximately 50/50 timeshare, and any deviation from 50/50 shall not confer special privelege to either parent), then immediately call cease fire and agree to joint. If they are bluffing, resume bombing. You are the underdog, don't forget it, and you have to fight dirty if necessary. Fighting clean, or being trusting only guarantees you will lose. I wish you good luck. Please let us know what happens.
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