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Sorry - I just need to vent!
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Posted by:
richito
on December 04, 2001 at 17:12:13:
Here's why...
I've been sending certified letters to request more time and the one pertaining to this week was received by my ex 5 days ago. I've made it extremely easy to respond with SASE (she lives next to a Post Office) and she could fax from work.
But 4 letters...nothing returned to me.
Now, I can only properly assume that if she has received the letter and does not respond, then she is ok with my proposed schedule. So I picked up our child yesterday (I'm glad it was from her sister because I know if it's not my ex - no news is good news) and returned him today at 1pm. I told my ex I would pick him up tomorrow at 4pm. She said ok. Then 20 minutes later she gives me a call to tell me she is NOW off tomorrow and Thursday and wants to spend time with him. She had her attorney fax my attorney and he tells me I should just be cooperative because it will look better for me in court. There is no other reasonable assumption I can make other than that she is just trying to F@#%-up my visitation. Who cares that I just stocked up on food for us. Who cares that I set up my schedule a week ago. Who cares that I had planned to take my little boy to an amusement park on Thursday.
Not my ex! Ok, deep breath now. We all know this is fairly typical...but it sucks.
We all know I am playing hardball now, for the sake of my son, but at least I'm trying to SHARE our child. I'm actually looking forward to the hearing next week. Nobody (my ex, my attorney's secretary who supposedly knew yesterday) calls me to tell me maybe I should keep him longer today to make up for no visits later. And I just spoke to my attorney's secretary. Very nice, but she is telling me that if the move-away is granted, than I will have all summers, etc, and we can split travel costs. Then she says...and get this...I may just have to move to NY!
If I wanted that, I wouldn't need an attorney.
Maybe she justs wants me to be ready in case things don't go well. Doesn't ANYONE get it. Fathers matter!
I don't want "visitation".
I don't want my son commuting on 3000 mile flights every few weeks.
I don't want my son not knowing his daddy.
I want to be a parent to my son!
Thanks for letting me vent.
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