No, I do not know this woman personally, but by what she wrote, it reminded me a lot of myself. She sounds like me. When I think back of all of the crap I had to deal with, it hurts. I have not told my personal story, but maybe if I do, You will forgive me for making my opinion seem like it is more important. I use to be a really faithful strong christian woman. (I am trying to get back to that place.) I was engaged to a man 4 years ago and I thought we had the best relationship ever. He said he agreed to wait until we were married for sex. He told me that was what the most attractive thing about me was. About 3 months after our engagement, he came over to my apartment after a night of drinking and drugs and he raped me. My neighbor heard the struggle and called the police. He tried to play it off as a mutual "thing" and I told the police otherwise. The scene spoke for itself. He brutally attacked me. He was arrested on the spot. I fought it to the end. I was taken to the hospital, all the test conducted, gave 3 interviews to 3 diffrent police officers, and was introduced to a Domestic Violence advocate. I refused the morning after pill because of my beliefs. It is an abortion pill commonly given to rape victims in case of conception. It took going thru 3 lawyers to find one to accept my case. They all told me the same, "Rape cases are hard to prove, especially in Domestic relationships." He is still in jail!!!! About 2 months later, I found out i was pregnant. I decided to keep the baby, even though my family told me not to. Now, his family has been another story. His mother and father fought me for custody before the child was even born. She filed the papers while I was still going thru court for the rape. She was aweful to me and called me names I don't even want to repeat. She based her reason for wanting custody on the fact that I was suffering depression. I had Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. Her "precious" little boy, she said, was a victim of a crazy woman. Well, I have my daughter and they don't even have visitation rights. It was a long and expensive struggle. My family backed me up all the way. My mother was amazing, and my older sister went to every trial and hearing with me. I could elaborate, but this post is long enough. It was what Clark said, "It obviously wasn't rape, so what does that make you." I know it wasn't an attack, but it made me mad. During the trial, I was made out to be a whore: I am anything but a whore. So, I think I am going to stop utilizing this website. It isn't doing me any good and my knowledge will be better appreciated on the job site. Thank you all for the experience. All my best wishes, Selena
