2 years ago when my mother in law was here (the first time she had ever been here and only the second time she had ever been able to see my SD because BM would not let my husband take SD to see his family until it was court ordered). BM would not allow SD to stay at our house anymore than what was spelled out in the papers. SD saw my mother in law (her paternal grandmother) for a week before SD had to go home. My mother in law waited a month before leaving so she could see SD again. Then BM's grandmother died and the funeral was during my husband's scheduled time. My husband of course was going to let SD go to the funeral, but tried to arrange an alternate time that SD could see his mother before she was leaving. BM refused to exchange anytime. The conversation ended there. Then SD calls back crying and yelling at her Dad because he "wouldn't let her go to her great grandmother's funeral". He never said any such thing, it still hadn't been worked out yet. My husband tries to explain that he just wants for SD to see her paternal grandmother before she has to go. Doesn't matter. Dad is bad and is pursecuting her and her mother.
No matter how unreasonable, you can't win. If that parent has control of the child's mind and devotions you just can't win that battle. These battles actually drive the child further away from you and the CP just twists them and uses them to prove to the child everything terrible they are telling the child about you.
