TOO NICE??? That makes me sick. I know this was a minor point in your post, but it jumped out at me over everything else! That 13 year old is someone's baby girl. 13 year olds can't have affairs with married men. Chances are, your husband raped her. You're just as sick as him if you can just let that go because you're "too nice." You have bigger problems you're not even aware of my friend.