I am 27 years old, and in quite a quandry. About 3 years ago I moved into my brothers house to stay and help with his kids, as my niece was diagnosed with leukemia. While there, my brother would be at the hosptial 24/7 and his wife would come and go. Pretty soon I found myself in a convoluted mess. We started having sex about 3 months after the diagnosis. We continued "partying" with each other for about a year, when we learned she was pregnant. Of course, the truth did not immediately come out as to who might be the father(apparently he has super sperm, because they did not have sex while i was staying there.) When she reached about 6 months pregnant, i guess i was of no more use to her, so she had my brother kick me out, still without being up front with him. After MY daughter was born, he pretty much knew it wasn't his, as all 4 of his previous children had been born blonde hair and blue eyes, and here sat this little red haired, hazel eyed thing. He pretty much ignored that(inhibitting his wife?) After the baby was about 3 months old, I started bringing her home with me, at first on the weekends, eventually every night. Again, would this not raise your suspiscions? Anyway, last week the mother told me that my brother would be getting a pretty fat check soon, and that she was going to use most of that money to find a place for us. I refused, because really the only reason i kept going along with her was to see my daughter. When i told her no, she became furious, demanding me to do as she said. When i still refused, she told me"You better have a good time with her tonight, because this will be the last time you get to see her. On Father's day, She calls my brother(he's a trucker) on the phone and tells him that the girl was mine. Of course, i get a call not too long after that from him. This has been going on for 3+ years, and i have wanted to tell him so badly. But all he wanted to know about was the sex!?!?! So of course, trying to do ther right thing, i told him evrything he wanted to know. BAD idea. He turns around, calls her and starts questioning her, but he never has asked WHY? Why did this happen? So, then, shes pissed because i revealed "personal information" but i just thought i was doing the right thing. Then i get a call saturday, from him, saying that he has been the one taking care of her, and i am not to see her again(the baby). Then he has the gall to say"i'm coming over for her clothes and her carseat". Mind you, I BOUGHT ALL THIS STUFF. He hasn't once bought her an outfit, shoes,a toy or anything. I also believe that he has been doing drugs, because for the past year 1/2, they have had no money, and were evicted from their house 2 months ago. They are staying with her brother and sister, 4 adults and 6 children in a 2 bedroom house. He has said that if I want to see the baby, I'll have to go to court. Fine by me, I have a good job, and have money saved for a rainy day. Do you think i have a shot at getting total custody? This woman has manipulated both of us against each other, and i know because when i first talked to him on the phone he said" Look i just want to get my kids out of there. Do you want to fight her? I know this guy... blah blah blah. Me being the DA that i am said yeah lets do it, and he turned right around and told her that. I went from being an everday uncle daddy to nothing in 4 days. I anyone has any thoughts, they are mighty welcome
