I have a girl friend with a nine month old boy named Isaak. Right now we are having difficulties with Isaak's father, Isaak is not mine but I care for him as if he were, his dads name is Alex. Alex was never there when Sara, my girlfriend was pregnant, he just left her when he found out and lived the life of drugs and alcohol while Sara sat at home pregnant. I started dating Sara three months ago, so when Isaak was six months. Now that Sara and Alex are seperated Isaak doesn't see his biological father much. As far as I know Alex has never really wanted to see his son until just recently. He doesn't ever make any effort to come see Isaak at Sara's but instead Sara has to drive to his house, where she feels uncomfortable because Alex still wants to be with her, but she doesn't want to be with him. On the phone whenever they talk Alex tries to get back with Sara, but she always refuses him. When Sara refuses him Alex threatens her by saying, that if she doesn't want to be with him then he doesn't want to see Isaak. Another thing that you should know about Alex is that he has threaten to stab and beat me up; will I be able to use this in court against him? Alex has decided to quit doing drugs but instead of staying at home or taking parenting classes to teach him how to become a 'dad' he goes out with his friends and drinks his brains out. His night always ends with him calling Sara's phone and saying that they need to be together and that he is going to hit me because I take care of his child. My main question that I want to ask you is do you think that Alex should have any custody over Isaak if he can threaten me and sometimes threaten Sara? A time that he threaten Sara is when she was pregnant and he told her that he was going to kick her in her stomach. Another question is do you think that I'm doing the right thing to parent Isaak because his dad really doesn't care? And could Alex really get 50% custody of Isaak like he says he can.
