"society's focus on the best interests of the child is often in the worst interests of the child."
If they mean that it is wrong to focus on the interests of children, I completely disagree, but if they are saying that the focus is blurred, then I agree. Society's focus is so myoptic that they are getting the opposite of the desired effect. The answer, though, is to get a clearer understanding of the best interests, not to abandon a worthy cause.
Physicians in midievel times used to bleed patients, thinking it was for the good of the sickly. It wasn't and many people died from this "care". So what was the proper course of action to correct this failure? Option one: Never let any physicians try to cure any patients. Option two: Learn more about health and human physiology, so that future efforts will be more successful. The latter is the right approach.
Likewise, if society intends to make divorce law center around the children's needs - a worthy goal - and yet we only make things worse for the children, the answer is to find a way to better serve the needs of children of divorce. The WRONG answer is to proclaim that we should disregard the children's interests in divorce and then somehow hope that will improve things for kids.
The right question is: "Are we really doing what is best for children and, if not, what can we do better?" The wrong answer is: "Let's stop trying to do what is best for the kids."
No, I've never heard of Dibnah. All we have here in the states is a Dubyah.
I have already answered your request for another reason to support equal parenting beyond CBI. It is also fair to both parents. There would also be less fighting and less money spent on divorces. It may even reduce divorces or keep parents from moving apart.
The strongest argument for equal parenting, however, is that children need, love and deserve both parents. Having two parents equally involved is in the best interests of the children.