Can someone please tell me how it is in the best interest of the child for the father to just pop in and out of his childs life every couple of months? My 5 yr old's father has been doing this to him since he was born. My sons fahter and I were young when my son was born and granted he wasnt ready to be a father so I raised my son while living at my mothers until my son and I moved in with my fiance. My son at this point was then 2 yrs old. His birth father had joined the Marines and moved to Florida. He visited 1 week every 6 months and not him but his mother or sisiter would ask for my son for one day to see his dad. In between these every 6 month visits there were no phone calls or letters from him. Then the day came when I had enough and I went to court. The court granted 2 visits in our state (Pennsylvania) and then granted a 6 week visit in Florida because his birth father said he wanted to be a part of his sons life. Since the 6 week visit in Florida My son has heard from his birth father 3 times these phone calls were all in the month my son returned home. We havent heard from my sons birth father for 3 months now. My son never asks about him and I think it is due to him not being around his dad too much. My husband has taken to my son and my son calls him daddy which we allow because he has been a daddy to him he changed his diapers and fed him and sang him to sleep while his birth father was out doing god knows what. Now I know I said that my sons father is a marine and plenty of you are probably wondering if he got deployed or something let me tell that is not it. The court was told by the marines that my sons father had no chance of deployment. I just sit back and let it go but it hurts to wonder what my son is thinking about all of this. My son is on medication for bi polar which makes me even more worried about what is going on in his little mind when he gets a phone call out of the blue and the person on the other end says hey its Daddy! When the person who my son calls daddy and has been here every day that my son can remember is standing right in font of him. I am representing myself in court because my husband and I can not afford a lawyer and we make too much to get any financial help with a lawyer. Believe it or not I have been able to hold these feelings back while in court. Im just wondering if any of you have been through anything along these lines and what you did. If I had my way my son would just go on with his normal life here every day and my husband could adopt him. My son has a half brother and a step sister and he keeps asking why he cant have the same last name as all of us. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.
