Bottom line, she was as angry as was I. But, we came to an agreement. I have my son more than my ex-just not exactly how I wanted it (my week begins on Wednesday and goes to Monday ((EXCEPTION IS THERS IS A 5TH WEEKEND, THEN I GO FROM friday after school to monday)) along with holidays, school inservice days if they fall on my week, and 30 days in the summer less one weekend). My ex used all the reasons why str8 50/50 was mot reasonable ( need mo, needs stability, too much back and fourth, two homes instead of one, etc etc). Bottom line a kid needs both parents as equally as posible. Even if the parent isn't as good as you...I think you will agree better to have a parent (in this case dad) that is inclusive, and screws up now and then versus one that never call, cards, e-mails,, shopping, sports, read books, go to the park, go to bookstore, library, etc etc in which an average can do...and C- to D+ dad might be able to handle...we some of the items
I would have rather had my dad the way he is (haven't seen in 15-20 years) than no dad at all.
Or generation can make a difference if we can rely less on the courts and attorneys-These are the 2 reasons why I think families get so torn. Fortunately, my ex and I get along ver well since May. We have an open schedule fo the most part, but fall back on the order when we come to a cross road. So, what I am saying is don't shut anyone..shoot if dad showed when he was 15 (or mom) that is better than no dad at all-at least I think. Some will disagre, as you perhaps may, but I am just voicing my experience/opinion.
p.s I agree about walking 1 mile intheir shoes...the NCP is palced in a position to feel destitute, wronged, lost his kidd he saw everyday...It is not easy and I was lucky...that she ran out of money