I am a 23 year old who split up with my boyfriend when our daughter was about 5 months old. If i couldnt deal with his drinking and horrible attitude towards women i sure as hell wasnt going to be able to deal with it when he got his 1 million dollar lawsuite settlement!!! We had agreed that he would have her every other weekend, and any time in between as long as he gave me a day or 2 notice. From then until she was about 2 i had to fight him for him to see her. My father left when i was five and i didnt want that to happen to my baby girl who dispite all his flaws she couldnt see, loved him to death. Never wanting to deal with court i just suffered the living hell of having to call the police because he wouldnt tell me where she was when i called to talk to her, him dropping her off at the babysitters overnight to go out drinking on the one of 2 weekends he had her a month etc. etc. It just goes on and on.Then he met a 32 year whose nine year old who was living with her parents in another state and BOOM he had a live in nanny(hes 23 now mind you) So now he wants to do week on week off. Im not working and now engaged so i say fine..BUT i wont like that when i get a job and only get to see her for a few hours a week. So when i got a job and and am paying for daycare and paying for her health care all by myself, i get court papers in the mail saying hes suing me for custody. Now we have lawyers that i cant afford because my commision job hasnt paid me in 2 months and were going to family court services so some stranger looking in can decide whats best for MY daughter. Im FREAKING out at the thought that my daughter could possibly be taken away from me. Shes my life and i would just love ANY info that might ease my tension. Please any feedback would be wonderful!!
