My daughter is with her father. My son is with me. I was very frustrated when I had my daughter stay with her father initially. We were at odds with each other for practically everything that involved her making a little effort. I was nagging her daily to clean her room, wash her face, change her panties andwhatnot. I felt that at age 9, she needn't be reminded in such a way. She would choose to wear dirty clothes instead of putting them in the dirty laundry bag. She had clean clothes, but looked neglected in appearance. I would have food in the fridge, and she would not make the effort to help herself to any of it if she wanted a snack. Then, she would whine that she hadn't eaten. Absolutely ridiculous. I used to complain to her father and he would be passive throughout it all. Basically, he had told me once or twice before, that that's what I have to deal with since I wanted sole custody. He ended up seizing the opportunity that she was there, and go for sole custody.
Has anything you did he used? He brought up the sexual abuse in court before, but the judge was assured that my children are not in danger.
Based on the fact that I have no support system, I remained in contact with her. There is a court order barring her from being alone with my children. I fully understand that you wouldn't want someone who committed such an act to work with kids. I wouldn't, either. But, both fathers knew about my mother and chose to do nothing. They know that my mother is not a predator and that if I suspected anything, I would stop at nothing to have her arrested. They only used it as a means to an end in court; not because of any real concern.
