Come up with a plan between both of you. Keep the courts out of it-how on Earth do they know what is best for yours and your ex's family. Draw up the plan and file it with the clerk of court, or however the procedures are with your state. The courts only muck it up-you both are adults. Don't be controlling (not saying you are), don't use the kid to get back at him. Both parents are needed equally. I am sure you will do the right thing.
