I live in oregon. I have sole custody of my son, who is 5. I never had a relationship with his fater just a one week stand. I have been married to someone else for 10 years. this pregnancy happend when we were seperated for 1 month. This man has raised this child as his own and the other 2 we have together. The 5 year olds real father has only been in his life for about 2 1/2 years. the 5 year old has been staying the night with him for 1 night every-other weekend for almost a year. my son does not want to go he cry's, and has alot of emotioal problems due to this situation. He go's to a counceller, but it is not much help. we have to force him to go and it is very hard on all of us. I've been to court and all the bio-father has is the everyother weekend, and he was suppose to have him for his birthday and thaksgiving but he never even showed up to get him. he said he forgot.. This man is 40yrs old, lives with his parents, dose not have a job, criminal record, alcoholic, has 1 other kid with someone else. Of corse we don't get along, but that's really not the problem. My qustion is is when can our son make his own choices, when does his little voice count...???
