When he is 18.
If the child is sick and is throwing a fit because he doesn't want to get a shot, are you going to forgo medical treatment?
If your son throws a fit about going to school...are you going to keep him home?
This man is 40yrs old, lives with his parents, dose not have a job, criminal record, alcoholic, has 1 other kid with someone else.
And your point is what??? Oh yeah...you're trying to convince us that this man is an "unfit" person to be a father. Hmmmmmm...maybe you should have thought about that BEFORE you had sex with him. Oh...you didn't know about all this when you did...then that is YOUR fault isn't it? As for him having another child...don't you have other children?
I'm not trying to be mean, but as the saying goes..."you made you bed, now you must sleep in it". For whatever reason, you choose to have sexual relations with a man you did not know which resulted in a child. Even though your husband has accepted this child, you cannot sweep the child's FATHER under the rug so you have a nice tidy "family".
That the child has "emotional problems" as you say most likely has a lot to do with you. NOT saying that you are a bad person, but young children a very emotionally attuned. I would recommend that you and the child's father (his REAL father, NOT your husband) get into some kind of counseling program also.