The counceller went to court on my behalf, that is why the child spend so little time with him. the bio-father has refused to go to the counceller with him because he can't pay. this man lives with his mommy and daddy and has no job, he lives off welfair and food stamps, lazy. there is no reason he can't work and get a house of his own. he's 40 I'm 28, own my own house and buisness I'm not saying i'm better than him but i am very responsable and I take care of my own life, wich is how i thought it was suppose to work. I do not ever talk bad about the childs bio-fater in front of him. I don't want to influece him. i want him to feel like he's going with someone safe, and where he will be safe. My child comes home everyother weekend crying and complaining I hear nothing but bad. He wakes up with nightmares, it is breaking my heart. When i send him off everyother weekend, i honesly wonder if i will ever see him again.