There is a big difference between a child who is confused about who really IS his father and who has picked up on his mother's negative feelings and a child who is in danger of physical harm.
For all your huffing and puffing, ranting and raving...this post is more questionable than the first one. I mean...if you really were in fear for your child's safety...shouldn't that have been the focus of your first post, how to protect your child...not that he cries because he has to go to Dad's and that vapid...can his wittle voice be heard (gag).
I have no doubt that there are issues, but I think that they are more on your end than the child's father. There is a big difference a father who can't afford to pay for counseling and you making it sound like he is refusing to go because he's an asshole.