If that WAS your "point", then that is the point you should have made in the first place isn't it instead of acting like "we" were just being spiteful and vindictive because she is a woman?
Obviously this man IS being responsible...or rather he is being as responsible as he possibly can given that he is dealing with a vindictive shrew. Case in point...she said that he REFUSES to attend counseling, but the fact is...he can't afford to pay. HOWEVER, her insurance covers the cost of the counseling...but she won't tell him that...claims that since he is 40 year old he should know. Really?