My point wasn't about whether this woman was irresponsible - she won't be the last person to do what she did after all (admittedly the same can be said about the father).
No, my point is that a father who has behaved irresponsibly is, as you know, given the same contact rights, (or at least has his contact with his child judged on the same basis) as someone who loved the woman who was the mother of their child, and they both chose to start a family together - and this was a fully wide awake decision one would hope.
That is my point here - and I have to say to those who are getting so upset with this woman - is it because she really did something so terrible (as you might be saying you think she did) that upsets you - or is it because you've had a case thrust in front of you that doesn't conform to your blinkered view of human relationships?
I am not saying this man should have no right to petition a court for contact rights either, only that in any judgement his obvious defects (assuming what we are told is true as I'm prepared to do here) should be taken seriously. It is ridiculous that everyone on this forum appears to want to support this man just because he is a dad - almost regardless of anything else - as though he had no strikes against him!
That is my view, and I know I may be in a minority here, but I wanted this woman to know we don't all think the same.
All the best, Graham