I don't believe I have called you names at all, I have questioned things and held you accountable that is is.
I would venture the answer to your question lies in why dad has only seen him for the last 2 1/2 years and the calling you drunk took place 3 years ago according to you.
And yes I paid for BM to attend our counseling and provide the insurance she uses to have oldes tin residential care for her screwing her up.
I also have provided financial assitance to my children for their stay with their father because they have needs. And I will parent reguardless of difficult the job is for my ex.
And if he was such a low life why carry on with him. Gecko has a point this is who YOU chose to be with and YOU choose to keep the child, so yes you have to live with it.
As for having it happen, well it already has, my ex is an alchoholic. His disease changes nothing about how important his children are to him, and if I kept them from him, yes he would probalby act as stupidly, but then again I would be partly to blame.
BTW I work 3 jobs and actually have insurance to pay for counseling unlike you if you want to start comparing!