His attorney was surprised that he was upset and thought he would be happy they had reached an out of court settlement. I told the attorney that he felt like he was loosing his daughter. His attorney said to me, "We all have to let go of our children sooner or later".
At the time I thought that was a very insensitive thing to say, but the more I thought about it, it had some wisedom to it. (This attorney was older and his last daughter had just left for college. He had some experience in "letting go").
It feels like such an injustice when someone else "steals" some of the time we "should" have with our children, but it still remains true that sooner or later, we must let go.
I'm sorry that "letting go" is being forced on you so soon. It hurts and you have every right to be angry. Hopefully the two of you can start moving to an parent/adult child relationship model that will be comfortable for both of you.
Best wishes,
SY