We went to court at the end of January, and their whole family was there to testify to the fact the the oldest (5) called a "family meeting" to tell everyone that her "daddy molested her and her sister (3)". So, of course the judge who seemed to be on our side in December (the one who wasn't going to take away a father's visitation just on someone's word) completely changed his tune. Myself and my 15 year old brother were there to testify that between the 3 of us, my fiancee had NEVER been alone with the girls. My mother and grandmother were there to testify that they had seen him with the girls on SEVERAL occasions and they acted far far from abused. Court was VERY short, my mother and grandmother got to testify and then it was over. The judge ordered a forensic evaluation of the girls, my mom and grandma to supervise visits, and psychological evaluations of my fiancee and the custodial-grandmother.
Skip to present....everything seemed to have been going fine. The girls admitted to several of their "bad stories" and even once admitted that Nana told them to say bad things. The court date got pushed from May 10 to August 2 because Social Services was trying to find funding to pay for the psychological evaluations. We get a nice little visit from our lovely Child Protective Service Worker. But, for once it's not directed at my fiancee. It was directed at ME. I have now become a part of the investigation. During the forensic evaluation, his 5 year old gave "credible statements" (told the same lie over and over) and said that I told my fiancee to perform and watched these acts of sexual abuse. I broke down, right in front of the CPS worker, and did it with the tape recorder going. Never in my life. I was appalled. I couldn't understand it. I have never ever harmed a child. Everything I do is for my own two children. I work full time, go to school full time, have wonderful family support, have no criminal record, am a normal person, I just don't think I fit the "profile" of someone who would do that. And I told this worker as much.
So, we sit and wait. We talked to our lawyer, and she is not surprised. It started back in November. Each time it gets worse, something "new" comes up, something is added to an existing allegation. Don't you think they'd see that there is something funny going on? It never stays the same, there is ALWAYS something being added on. I am sending our lawyer some research on Parental Alienation Syndrome, because from what I've read, it's a classic case. My whole entire family is coming in to testify to the fact that they ALL heard his 5 year old say that Nana tells her to say bad things, and that on SEVERAL occasions both girls have just come out and say that they know nothing bad ever happened. They don't act like abused children around us....they hug him, love on him, tell us how much they love us...lalala...I just don't understand. I just hope my family's testimony will put a little bit of doubt in the judges mind about the "credibility" of their statements in the forensic evaluation.
Sorry to be so long winded, but I needed to vent somewhere where I might actually get some insight from someone who's been there, or close to it!!