Oh boy...those "I only married her because she was pregnant" situations are horrible. No girl wants to be in that position....ever....it's as insulting as having someone deny being the father of your children! Deep down, she probably knew he didn't want her which is a tremendously painful notion for a mother because you realize "I was good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be with..." Things usually deteriorate quickly from there. When he met you, it probably just reminded her that he didn't want her but she had a life-long link to him through the kids so she reacted (albeit, not in the best way). Good luck to you hon...in my first marriage, I was in your shoes and it seemed to make perfect sense to me then (in my early 20's) that a man shouldn't subject himself to a relationship that is like that. Now, being single mom like I am, and knowing the devastation my SD faced (she's now 25 with kids of her own), I won't even date a man who has kids because I can't in good conscience be with someone that I know, morally and ethically, should be somewhere else and I don't want to hurt anymore kids. I feel somewhat responsible for the things my SD went through because I helped my ex-husband "fight" the mom.
