My parents were "pregnant" before marriage. It is well known to me that my dad didn't want to "marry someone who was pregnant." My mom is no saint, but I feel a lot of her sadness in having been disgraced in that way. It also makes me feel a certain way about my dad too. Growing older and seeing things in a different light, and looking at the faces of my own children, a child should never, ever have to pay for their parent's mistakes and we should all be adult enough to make sure that doesn't happen.
I have been a shoulder to cry on for many, many women in these situations, plus I have a SD and I explained earlier about what I learned from that. I also know a lot of men who complain about "baby mama drama" that are actually the cause of it.
There are many issues to tackle and many facets to explore. I am just sharing the pieces of what I have learned.