wrong I am a mother, and you refuse to even consider the possibilities. In other words you can't believe you may possible be wrong so therefor you revert to insulting my mothering skills because they are different from yours. I didn't forget the abuse or the allegations. I don't have to KNOW you, just your actions. You want control of the kids while they are there and you can't have it.
you a wrong in your assumption that it doesn't harm him. And it only HARMS you because you don't have a say in it. And yes he does have a right as do the children to spend time with dad without your interference.