The other problem as I see it, is children are not possessions....they are people. This is the base of the problem mentality. Now, we have come a ways from considering women and children as property or possessions, in general, but what I notice in the mothers that I work with is that they are worried about their children and how their children think and feel and the fathers are more concerned with their own "rights" or ownership of the child.
The other thing that concerns me is that if it is crammed down my girls' throat that the back and forth is normal, how am I going to teach them 1. what type of man is not healthy for them as adult partners, 2. that it is not okay to have children with multiple people and not be in a monogomous and committed relationship with the other parent, and 3. that as a parent, their children come first and foremost.
I think this issue involves a paradigm shift so insurmountable that it will never get better. I used to think all the baloney about the "destruction of the family" was just a bunch of crap...but I have reversed my opinion. If we keep going the way we are and not look at the real issue and get families to stay together, we are doomed as the human race. We have got to stop letting people think that it is okay to produce children and then hop to the next bed...oh how sad God must be above watching all this.