First, having been sexually assaulted by my ex-husband IN FRONT OF MY CHIDLREN....I think I know that he's a sex offender. Perhaps not "convicted" except by God because He knows the truth. He also participates in sex with teenage girls (by his admission to me)....obviously, I did not know these things until long after we were married....duh
Not only that, my ex would hold my oldest in his arms, thrashing and throwing her about while attacking me...he would sit with her on the floor holding her, pounding his fist on the floor releasing his rage...how do you think that felt to my baby? All she felt was his anger and saw mommy crying. She also witnessed him punching me in the back of my head when she was 18 months old, and in his arms at the time...when I turned and saw the horror on her face, it killed me. Or when I lay in bed, with an 8lb newborn beside me and he picked up a table top and slammed it onto my legs...my first thought was that he was going to hurt our daughter...not some magical potion of revenge and hate like you try to make it sound.
If the play therapist who is a mandated state reporter was concerned enough about it to call CYS oh...gee...for my daughter asking me to kiss her vagina..ummmm...my oldest trying to insert things in my youngest's vagina during bath time....ummmm, the fact that my oldest daughter has a fused labia (this means the labial folds of her vagina have grown together)...look it up...trauma to the vagina is a cause...so can be severe diaper rash, which my daughter never had and is in fact potty trained and wears panties....and then the last big concern is why does her daddy keep asking when it will be open again...hmmmmmm...how does he know this, unless he is looking at my 4 year old's vagina??? There would be no reason for a father to lie his child down and look between her legs numerous times......
Your mentality is the problem. Is a rape vicim on street in need of leaving what happened to her between "her and him" or does she have an innate need as well as duty to help protect those who may also become vicim?
Again, you are stereotyping me....historically women in my shoes have been labeled, scorned...vindictive....crazy.....
Would I not be crazy to stand by and not protect my children from someone I have SEEN in action...someone who is dangerous and someone who has a history of violence towards women?
I am far from losing my children. As a matter of fact, he will probably be going back the the supervised visitation he had before. And I will be okay with that because I know there will be someone there to keep him above-board.
If another "poster" was in my sitaution and lost custody, you should be appalled that our system would thrust innocent children into the hands of criminals....
My "behavior" is what??? Telling the truth? Being an honest and caring mother? You are villifying me and you don't even know me. I feel sorry for my kids' dad. He need help. But I cannot do anything about that...I can only protect my girls. Period....that's all there is to it. I think it's comical (but really tragic) that people like you automatically assume the things that you do. What purpose would I have for getting a message board and "painting" ex in the worst possible picture...for shits and giggles??? Why would I be in college fulltime to become and attorney to do victim advocacy work? why have I met with House and Senate reps about current laws that need to change and that I hope to testify before congress about the realities of battering? Why I am in contact with NCADV and PCADV? Oh, right...according to you my motivation is revenge to my ex