For the last 6 years son has lived with me and had liberal visitation with his dad. I do all school stuff, activities and mostly everything. We tried a 50/50 for one year but it didn't work out due to the stress that is caused in life. Son didn't mesh well with the siblings, dad frequently left son and went off to do his own thing, didn't take son to his activities or hewlp with school work, and step mom was not thrilled with it. The problem resolved itself because dad moved to the opposite end of town away from the school of son.
Also for the last few years we had a agreement that dad would pay me $200 a month and then pay medical insurance, only 50 to $70. He was to split all other things with me like clothes and shoes and activites. Well that rarly happened. Over the last 2 years father has bought a home, lied to me and told me it was a deal he got from the builder. Lie, the house loan was $499,000. Has two brand new vehicles that are fully loaded with DVD players and tv's. A pool table, a new play yard structure in the back yard, a boat and recently just had a swimming pool dug in the back yard with a water slide.
Two months ago I asked for money for clothes for son. He tells me he will take son shopping, never happened. Then I ask again he hands me $50. Oh that will buy a shoe maybe since ours son has size 13 feet. Then he tells me he will give me more later. Never happened. Everytime I ask for money he has another lie to tell. The last one was he was going bankrupt. That was before he had the pool built.
So this weekend I called him and told him he needed to increase it to $350 a month. I work full time and make a moderate living but the rent in this town has sky rocketed and I can't afford to keep son feed and clothed and pay for all the extras that kids need for school. Son is also a boyscout and really loves it but that is money too. He basically told me to go to hell and that I was a money grubber and that we could just go to court and then threatens to take son away from me and all that crap. It is so sad because I know it won't happen because son dosn't want to live with him and his modivation is greed. He would rather pull son out of his school and away from his friends and activites so that he can have a boat and new car. I wish I could have recorded the conversation because he said during it that our son really didn't need to go to Karate (but he pays for his other son to go) and that son didn't need to go to scouts. Actually he does need the positive male role models which dad rarly provides.
So today after 13 years I filed in court for child support. When I called him I told him I didn't want to go to court that we could agree but he really insisted. The funny thing is the dissomaster says he will pay around $500 a month. I think someone will be kicking himself in the butt next month. The sad thing is that he will take it out on son andy suggestions on that one?