While there, I was able to speak with the BM about this upcoming weekend. Truth is, she's real tough with my husband, but generally her and I get along. Anyway, I simply asked her what she wanted to do about this weekend, still thinking she was going to deny it. But she has apparently changed her mind and is fine with this weekend, we just needed to iron out a pick up time. Knowing her, this has only changed probably because she has something planned for herself... not because she thinks it's best for her daughter... but regardless, I'm glad she changed her mind.
I have a question for those of you who have argued against me exercising the visitation. Even if there is no LEGAL responsibility on the BM's part to allow this visitation, SHOULDN'T she allow it? I mean, what is that saying to the child to not allow her to come see her family just because dad's not here? What ever happened to the best interests of the child? How could you argue that it is in the best interests of the child to not come see me or the rest of her paternal family? Assuming that I don't pose any threat to her, which I don't.
We see her so little as it is. Just once every 3 weekends, and not even for a full 48 hours. Not allowing the visit would only be due to a few things. Control, hate, jealousy, revenge... Nothing that has anything to do with the child. Nothing that has the child's interests at heart. Not allowing it would be completely selfish and self-serving.