either parent may designate a competent adult to
pick up and return the child, as applicable; a parent or a designated competent adult shall be present when the child is picked up or returned;
That wording is in my order. We also have:
"a parent shall give notice to the person in
possession of the child on each occasion that the parent will be unable to exercise that parent's right of possession for a specified period;"
We had some issues with my ex dissapearing, and his mother taking his visitation without telling me, and I asked my attorney what this meant, specifically, as far as being able to stop those visitations where the ex was not present, and whether I could do so.
Despite the fact that it would seem that if you could designate someone to pick up and drop off that what happens in between then is none of anyone's business, the fact is that in our state, it's written into the statute that the "a parent" is to "excercise" the possession time.
Regardless of who picks up and drops off, I am told, if the ex never actually excercises that possession time, not only am I allowed to refuse the visit, if the visit is taken and it is proven that the ex was not there, I can take up make up time as it was a visit that should not have happened and was obtained deceptively.
Now, this is what my $350 an hour bought me as far as advice, and I have not, as of yet, tested what will really happen in court.
But it seems to me that if it's not directly addressed, it's best to ask a lawyer directly how the state laws are interpreted as far as implementation - until I asked, even having read the statute, I wasn't sure.