I know they are not just my babies. It was just a figure of speech. We have always had great communication were our boys are concerned. I guess that is why this if flooring me. He had always called or came by if he had to talk or had a problem with something. I haven't spoken to him since he got remarried. I told him I would talk to his wife if it was a problem. We have never when by the "schedule". He gets them anytime he wants and if our boys don't hear from him, I encourage them to call. I just want to do whats right where the kids are concerned. The are crazy about my new husband but he did get pulled over last month and got a DUI. I have never had to really deal with anything like this and just don't know what to do. I just wish he would talk to me.