I hope I can appreciate why you might feel as though your case wasn't handled well, and you've not got the set schedule you expected to be given by the courts etc. so your ex. can get mad and change her mind anytime. However there is always another way of looking at these things, and your lawyers or the courts may have said to themselves if they give you both a set schedule to adhere to, and one or other doesn't comply then that only complicates matters. If you're agreeing contact arrangements, haphazardly or allowing your ex. to take some liberties, but overall its working out then maybe that's better than an agreement that ultimately doesn't work.
I read this statement in a UK government press release today:
"..almost half of all children from separated families did not see their father once last year."
This is the same government whose leader, Mr Blair said in parliament a couple of years ago "That only 10% of fathers have no contact with their children after divorce".
How can there be such a discrepancy between these figures you might ask?
Well Mr. Blair was busy dismissing attempts in parliament to give fathers better contact rights, and therefore chose to base his statistics upon a relatively small survey that had been published shortly before his speech. The almost 50% of children not seeing their children is a far more realistic picture I believe, and coincides far more closely with previous figures used by government departments responsible for family law. Note that because "contact" may mean anything from receiving a Christmas card once a year to actually getting to see your child regularly and thus have some chance of a meaningful relationship with them. Note also our Prime Minister referred to the situation after "divorce" which is going to mean a different figure than betwen parents who never married. I believe he sought to confuse and undermine critics by referring to such a loose term as "contact", and by extracting misleading figues painting a rosy picture of a dire situation here.
I'm telling you all this because though you may be unhappy with your situation at present, or what you think may one day happen to derail your parenting, at the moment you are way ahead of so many other fathers. I think that's worth remembering.
All the best, Graham