If you are looking to your attorney as an excuse for losing, you're going to have a hard row to hoe.
He was up front and advised you that your ex had consulted with him a year previously regarding this matter and that he knew your ex's mother...yet you still retained him.
At ANY time during the year if you did not feel that he was adequately representing your interests, you could have fired him...but you didn't.
Is there anything that I can do, since my lawyer didn't present certain evidence?
What "evidence":
She states that she goes to work and comes home to keep my daughter and she doesn't go out and party. I had a picture that I obtained off the internet (one of her friend's web pages) of my ex and a friend at a bar with a time/date stamp on it at 1am, a time my daughter wasn't with me.
You have what...A picture of her at a bar with friends. So? Parents in "intact" families often hire babysitters so they can go out and "party"...or to dinner or to the movies or to a wedding or a funeral, etc. Now...if you had had multiple pictures of her partying almost every night (5 out 7) for the last two years...that would be different. But a single picture does NOTHING but make you look petty in the Judge's eyes.
My ex sat her car on fire, while pregnant.
You have actual proof of this...like video, pictures, unimpeachabe eyewitness testimony, charges of insurance fraud, an arson report?
She lied and said that I had refused to buy our daughter diapers and that I did not want anything to do with our daughter. I had a transcript and audio recording on cd of this conversation
Which time? She she say what date and time said conversation took place? Does your recording say what date and time it took place, can said recording be authenticated? Did she lie or did she simply misinterpret what you said?
Also way before we went to court I brought up hiring a P.I. to follow her around
To what purpose...to show that she drops the kid off at daycare, goes to work, picks the kids up, goes home, goes to the grocery store, goes to WallyWorld, goes out with her friends once in awhile? So that she could file harassment and stalking charges against you?
When you go into a custody battle, you have to be armed for WAR...based on the examples you provided...you had a pea shooter and a couple of spit balls!
Custody reversals are tough to win...period. Judges just don't like moving the kids unless they just don't have a choice. I know a father would got busted for meth...had the stuff on the coffee table next the the kids' food and two loaded guns on the floor...he still has custody, because he has a job and the kids are healthy.
My advise is to tuck your tail between your legs and do the best you can to see the child as often as possible...ask every week...for the next three to six months and then get a new attorney and file a Motion to Modify Parenting Time. Get a set Parenting Time schedule...then if she refuses to allow you access to the child, you file a police report and you send her a letter (certified w/return receipt and regular mail and copy for your) letting her know that you did and ask for make-up time. Maybe she'll quit, maybe she won't, but if she doesn't...you do this each and every time. Once you have established a "pattern" (at least 6 instances)...file a Show Cause motion (contempt).
Now generally nothing happens the first time...they get their hands slapped...but you now have a court record. And the next time she denies you Parenting Time...you file a police report, you send her a letter requesting make-up time and if you don't get it...you file "contempt" again. Once you have a few "contempts" against her...THEN you file a Motion to Modify Custody....on the ground that she is [obviously] incapable of fostering a relationship.