I just wanted to say that in my divorce, I did experience the fact that the courts do not look at what is really best for the children involved nor do they consider all of the children in the home and not just the child having his or her life ripped apart by shared custody. I have been alienated from my daughter's life and all activities that my "X" could possibly try to keep me out of. He makes excuses that he did not know information or that he couldn't reach me. That is just what they are is excuses. If he does not know me after 10 years of trying to parent our daughter he never knew anything about me. We both are trying to move on with our lives but he still tries to control my life and tell me what I can and cannot do even if it has nothing to do with our daughter. I have since chosen not to have a serious relationship with anyone because of his anger and animosity toward me when I do anything to benefit me. I do not want to drag anyone else through his mess that he is constantly trying to drag me through. Our daughter has been showing signs of being abused in some way and is clearly not recieving the help and encouragement that she needs in order to succeed. I am in the process of collecting my paperwork and taking him back to court to try to take her away from him. I have never told her to do anything other to love and respect her daddy even though we could not always agree and get along. I have bent over backwards to work with him and he still refuses to allow me to see her and spend time with her when he has her. I am lucky if I have to call him about anything if I get to talk to her. She is very guarded with me and will no longer share those special mother daughter moments with me because he does not want her to. She acts like she is afraid to talk to me about anything. I had to explain the birds and the bees to her when she was 6 years old because of something his now 20 year old girlfriend exposed her to way before she was ready. I have dealt with him to the best of my ability and he will refuse to talk to me and actually have been accused many times of being in contempt of court by him only of course because I am not saying or doing what he wants me to say or do to cator to him. Our court papers say that we have shared custody and he refuses to treat me as an equal parent. I am going to fix that one of these days though even if I have to wait until our daughter turns 18 and tells him to kiss off on her own. We recently went on vacation and ended up getting stuck out of state. I was in constant communication with him and have even given up a few hours with her so that he can feel that I was not trying to cheat him in any way when I could not get her back to him when I was suppose to. However, I asked him to work with me to find a way to get her back to him on time and he said not to worry about it as long as he would get to make up his time with her when we got back into town. He refuses to list me on any of the paper work that he fills out for to go to a Christian school in his town (25 miles away from where I currently live). I am not even listed as an emergency contact and I am not given copies of anything he fills out. The school refuses to give me copies of anything he fills out as well but has verbally told me that I am not even listed as an emergency contact. I am very frustrated that this is the way I have been treated for almost 5 years now and I have had 2 different lawyers and actually did better in court when I represented myself that I did with either of those lawyers. I am not looking for an answer from anyone but I would appreciate your prayers that I can bring my daughter home where she belongs and is loved and supported instead of leaving her in an environment in which no one really knows what she is having to endure and see because she will not talk to anyone.
