Posted by:

Renee

on August 21, 2007 at 10:48:19:

If it were me - I would put a response in writing and would say something along the lines of : I agree to you picking DS up after school at 3:30 pm each day and I will then pick DS up from your residence at (xyz address) at 5:30 pm each day. If you want this time with DS, please respond in writing by XX day. If I do not hear from you by XX day, I will assume that you will not be taking this time and I will make other arrangements.

There is no misunderstanding. You are offering the time. He either uses it or he doesnt. If he doesnt show up on any given day after agreeing to use the time - send him notice in writing that he must either pick up DS as planned or inform you personally that he is not able to so that you can be certain to do so, if he can't do that, you'll have to make other arrangements for DS' care.

All of the melodrama in the middle isn't necessary. Offer the time - do it in writing to prove you offered it - and move on w/ your day to day parenting.

Check out "Joint Custody w/ a Jerk", you can buy it on amazon for around $10.00. My x goes through times where he is intent on making everything as difficult as possible - and this book saved my sanity! Maybe you can benefit from it too..

Good Luck.

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