My grand son is only two. They have been seperated since he was six months old. They only got married because my son thought it was the right thing to do since they had a baby. But, he was crasy in love with her. His life has gone down hill since then. He has made a big improvement as of late. He is going to college and works alot. She has always made him think they may still have a chance together, even by spending the night with him the weekend before she moved in with her boyfriend. She was even pregnant with this boyfriends baby and he left her because he didn't want anymore children, so my son stepped in and said he would love her and that baby. Three months later she had a miscarriage, and the next day that boyfriend was back in her life and my son was thrown away again. He has a lot of anger and has said some stupid stuff when she said that the baby now has a new family and they were thinking about moving. So, my son wont fight in court for things to stay the same with shared custody, because I guess what ever her said he did it on the cell phone with a text message and that is what she is holding over him.