The order still gives him rights to every other weekend, holidays and summers as it did when she still lived here. The problem is that we don't have to money to go across the country to pick up the children or even to visit them so phone calls and sending them things in the mail is all we can do now, but she won't answer the phone. And we don't know if she is giving them the things we send or if she lets them know it is from their father.
