what can you do when the children are so scared or psychologically torn down to go against their mother. I've seen my husband go through a lot in the past 8 almost 9 years now. His ex has gotten worse and she expects my husband to pay her more child support so that she can remain unemployed (by choice) and her current husband with a part-time job. She and her husband have a total of 8 kids! Three are with my husband, 1 from one relationship, and 2 from current husband, and 2 are his. No doubt they are going through some hard times, but she is collecting support from 2 dads. She has now requested an increase to my husbands pay because she can't afford to support all her 8 kids! I'm not against supporting my husbands kids. However, that's not where the money is going. My in-laws buy all 3 girls clothes every year for school. They take them out for birthday dinners and summer vacations. The 2 older girls have laptops (nice expensive ones) that grandparents bought them. The mother does not appreciate anything, in fact she just wants more. I am tired of this and have thought about divorce because my husband can't support our family because she is trying to get him for more money again. I get screwed every year on tax refunds because he does have back child support to pay. But that is another story. The girls have been brain washed so badly that there is no respect or affection between them and my husband. One of them wants to come live with us, but is terrified of her mom. And her mom is not going to give her up because that would mean less money! This is a very sad case for those girls. They now are mentally geared to want and ask and demand for material things without working for them. They at one point were told that their father was dead. They are being mentally abused by their mother. She has the oldest call my husband or his dad to gripe and complain about how they don't have any money to do anything. If I were unemployed (by choice)with 8 children and hubby with a part-time job I wouldn't have any money either. But the last time I checked my husband is only responsible for 3 of those 8 kids, not the whole family! And it drives me insane because I don't know what to do. The girls and I used to have a great relationship until they started expressing their feelings for me one day and that was the end of that. Their mother didn't allow them to come over anymore with the excuse that they were sick or some stupid excuse. We now have no relationship. There's got to be something I can do, but I don't know where to start. The courts don't care about all this stuff, do they?
