I'm torn whether or not I should pursue full custody or not. My ex husband and I have been separated two years now and have shared custody of our daughter. (I have her from Wednesday until Sunday, and he has her Mondays and Tuesdays.) But from the beginning, he has showed signs that he could care less about her well-being, and is more concerned with using her as a pawn to get at me. When my daughter was about a year old, he sent her home a couple times with a bleeding diaper rash (that I have pictures of), in the past two months, she has come home twice with lice, and more recently, I found out there is a phone recording of my husband coaxing my two and a half year old daughter to say, "Mommy is a whore." These are just some of the worse stuff, but there's much more. I had papers drawn up to simply outline our arrangement and get it in black and white in case he ever tried anything dumb, but he won't even sign them. I can't talk to him in a civil manner as an adult, because he gets defensive, and he doesn't see that my whole life is wrapped up in HER, not what happened between US. I do have a lawyer, but I owe him lots of money for obsolete papers I had drawn, and the obsolete divorce he won't sign, and money is tight. I just hear so many negative and unfair things about the family court system, that I'm afraid to pursue it because I'm afraid it'll somehow come back on me. I believe in father's rights, because I am that child that was kept from my dad, and that's not what I wish for my daughter, but I don't think he should have as much of an influence as he does. Do I have enough ammunition to prove that?
