well i know the 1 12/ hours sucks- trust me- we have been the ones driving most of that so far. and i dont need to her drive that whole way- just half is all we are asking. i would LOVE for them to have more time with their mom- but to me it seems the ONLy time she has them extra is when I ask if she wants to take them cuz we will be up that way for a short time or for the day. im not too worried about it...she just likes to threaten a lot. she always has and proabbly always will. this is why we dred the holidays. thanks tho