The two children from dad #2 that she left when the children were 1/12 and 3 have been troubled. In particular the older boy, who is now 10 (who reported someone was touching him, but mommy made them stop when he was 5) has already been in trouble many times for bullying and sexually stocking a little girl last year. Apparently he became violent with his stepmother (by the way he has been in psych care since he was 5). So, since he and BM both were saying they wanted him to move to KY, dad agreed this year. He as been there since Aug.
BM has many issues, most likely bi-polar, admitted alcoholic who still drinks, etc. But considering the situation dad agreed to try with it in mind that the step dad would be present and could keep the situation stable.
BM pushes for a final parenting plan to be put into place ASAP, but only a temporary parenting plan is filed at this point.
Not even 3 months in BM tells son's dad that her husband has taken a job in the Phillipines and is gone for weeks at a time. BM tells dad this because son is out of control while step dad is gone (son has no respect for women, in my opinion stemming from his mother's abandonment).
BM tells dad that step dad's company offered an insane amount of money to him to move to Phillipines, but she told him she wouldn't go.
This is hard for me to believe. Now it makes sense why she was pushing so hard for a permanent parenting plan off the bat. All of this was already in the works and only with a permanent parenting plan does she have a chance to relocate with their son to the Philipines.
Even though BM swears she would not move there, I again do not believe her. This is a woman who has never worked for more than 6 months and found this guy on the internet and agreed to marry him after only a few months after seeing his family is very rich.
So of course she is going to move at some point. Her only other option would mean divorce, which would mean that she has to get off the gravy train because her husband is not rich, his generous parents are.
So, my husband's daughter, my SD, is almost 14. Her grandmother been her primary care giver for most of her life. After they moved to KY, the grandparents moved to KY also.
The last time SD was at our house, she openenly was talking about how possible it would be for her to live with us. I thought it was because of how difficult her relationship is with her mother. But now I am thinking that it is because she was aware of Step Dad's job in the Phillipines.
I guess we will have to wait and see how this unfolds, but I am thinking the best thing for SD would be for the grandparents to take primary custody (even though I despise this woman because she signed BM's false assault charges against me) and for them to move back to WA.
My husband wouldn't have primary custody, but at least we would get to see SD and have a decent connected relationship with her again.
When SD lived with the grandparents for the 6 months that BM left her when SD was 5, it was actually easier dealing with the grandparents. They were more flexible, not constantly on a power trip, and did seem to have SDs best interest at heart, unlike BM.
Every 3 to 5 years it is some kind of chaos for SD. This really makes me sad.