Okay here is my story.........I am a 23 year old stay at home mother of 1- 2 1/2 year old boy....His father(36 years old) has been the one to work since we had our son.....I have been home every day with my son since the day he was born...Well about 7 months ago I left him(I moved back in with my parents)...and we have had a pretty good arrangement for his visition...he gets him every other weekend and 2 nights at 6pm during the week...which I have no problem with he should be able to see his son too(even though he only took him one night a week).....except he just informed me that he is moving to boston, mass.(we live in ne york) At the begining of this new year(to be with his gf)....He told me he would like to do one week on...one week off....and I told him..I would have to think about it..He has told me that if I dont agree to this arrangment that he will take me to court and take my son from me and move to boston.....What would be the likly hood of him actually getting custody? What would be the chances he would even get custody? He had to move back in with his parents because he refused to pay any of his bills and everything got shut off on him..(including the heat and electric that I felt obligated to leave on in my name because he owed them $2,000 and couldnt have it turned on in his name)....He also let our sons medical insurance run out and did not renew it( I just found out when I went to our old house and seen the opened mail on the table in a pile) He is not paying me what he should be giving me for child support and told me that I have to do half the transportation...but the only reason I told him he didnt have to give me the full child support is because he was doing all the transportation..(I do not have my drivers license)? He says that I am worthless because I do not work and he does..but the only reason I am not working is because I can not afford a babysitter and he will not help me out with the bill..he says for me to find a family member to watch him so it wont cost anything(meaning my mom)....according to him he is giving me more then he should right now...He will not buy my son any clothes at all..He says I have to go get a job....so I can help out with my responsibility(our son)....I am not saying he is a bad father but he could be a better one..He gives his time up with his son so he can drive to boston every weekend to be with his gf..He switches weekends with me whenever he wants and then turns around "if I say no" and says well this is not going to work..were going to have to go to court...so Ill change weekends with him(which is also part of the reason I cant get a job he changes when he wants to take him all the time and I cant find anyone who will watch him "whenever he wants them too" and I cant find a job that will work with that either....I am just to the point where I do not know what to do anymore..one part of me wants to... take him to court and get custody..give him every other weekend and tell him go to boston..and the other part(a very small part) of me wants to....give him one week on one week off..so he wont argue so much with me ..If anyone could give me any advice on what I should do or what my chances at getting custody would be please let me know...Any information would be greatly appreciated
