I never said he was just my son....like I said if u read.....I said he was "our son"..it was only at the end when I was asking questions that I said "my son"...... and I am asking what I should do.....ur telling me im lazy...to let u know I am far from lazy....I am the only one willing to take care of "our son".......ur solution is get a job and pay for day care urself....which would be okay if I could afford to do it......daycare runs 150+ out here and I have already checked on reduced daycare in this area....yeah sure its available...if u make less then a certain amount and because he does have a father....I have to say what his income is and therefore can not get it....so that leaves me with the option...of...I guess I could always leave him home alone Im sure that will go over well.... and then u also say it should be 50/50 well...that would be fine if it was....he wants to move 6 hours away to another state....so I guess it would be in the best intrest of the child to have him tossed back and forth each week....not able to start school...at any point....because as Im sure ur aware of u cant do one week at one school and another at a diffrent school....so there his education suffers. And also u want everything to be 50/50 when......lets see I get a job and then his father cant go on his vacations he feels he has done so much to be able to go on(ur solution to that is dont let him....okay I have tried to not let him before his solution to that "well this isnt working were going to court".....so u feel I should pay for when I have him and he should pay for when he has him basically......okay well then his father will never have any expenses for "our son" at all considering I have to twist his arm to take him everyother weekend and his one night a week (its supposted to be 2 but he likes long weekends in mass. w/ his gf). So I guess since hes such a stand up guy cause "hes working 2 jobs"...he should be praised for that...hes working all those extra hours to get extra money for......?? huh? I wonder.....cause "our son" doesnt seem to get anything out of it....oh thats right I know..its for his vacations he takes with his gf and gives up the little bit of time he has with "our son" but...hey...hes young he wont remember right...(and just so u know he choose the time he has with "our son" not me...I told him to tell me what he thought was fair..this is what he came up with not me........... Tues.- gets him at 6pm Weds.- brings him back at 8am Thurs.- gets him at 6pm Fri.- brings him back at 8am
Sat.- depends on whos weekend it is Sun.- " " (out of 168 hours a week he has him about 12 one week and 48 hours the other) and out of that he actually comes to get him Tues. night....and thats because his parents want to see "our son" cause he works his second job. now the Thurs. night he doesnt come get him if its my weekend because......thats the day he leaves to go to his gf house until tues. night he has to come get him to take him to his parents house so they can spend time with him.......and mind u after he take the whole weekend of to be with his gf...of course he has to work the next weekend.....and that just happens to be.....His weekend...but hes got to work that weekend cause then he would have that money to go next weekend to his gf house(or whatever he uses the money for)
So yeah I take "our son" almost 100% of the time.....because I want him to know that at least one of his parents are willing to do anything for him at the drop of a hat...that one parents wants to do nothing but spend there time with there child....regardless if its trying to stop him from crying or listen to him scream because he dropped his toy......I would take 100% of the time him acting like a devil...over alittle bit of time with him being an angel.......... The only reason I get defensive is that fact that I am far from lazy....I take very very good care of my son...and yeah I left his father ur damn right I did.....when theres problems not even counsling could solve.....the relatioship is over sometimes its better for to parents to part...then to stay together "for the sake of the child" and as for the movie......A Dad for Chirstmas.....I can tell what its about... But if "our son" ever asked for that....it would be because his father doesnt want to be there not because I wont let him be....... If he started to put forth the effort and showed he could be a father to "our son" then he deserves 50/50 until then.....he gets every other weekend..along with every other dead beat dad. Oh but wait were going to praise him for his 2 jobs....and the fact he gives me almost no money for child support(even when we havent been to court).....so I guess that makes him a great guy....wow...How did I let "THAT" get away?
