I am going to explain myself a little more indepth because I feel maybe I havent told u everything u need to know.........Okay what I ment was that.....He is supposed to take him on those days....he doesnt..he makes excuses why he cant take him....and he only takes him every other weekend when he doesnt have something already planned...if his gf isnt coming to town then he doesnt want to take our son....he wants to go see his gf.......that is my problem with the whole thing....he refuses to help out anymore then he is..with daycare....with anything....and if its supposed to be 50/50 then if he isnt going to have him half the time.....he needs to help out finically...that is all I am saying I am not asking him to pay for everything at my house and his...but when our son isnt at his house....for him to have to buy him anything there...he should be helping me buy it at mine(that is not wrong of me to ask)....and that is not what I am upset about....I am upset at the fact he doesnt take him when he should....I want him to be a part of his life....and maybe I came across as I didnt care but I do......but when he wont put forth the effort to take him when he should(on the schedule he made)then why should I allow him to just come get him when he feels he has time to take him...thats not the way it works...the only reason he has his schedule to take him is so if he happens to not be doing anything that day he can call and say hey im on my way to get him....I dont tell him no ur not getting him I wouldnt say that.....but when he calls me up on days that are not his scheduled days and says hey I want to come get him I do say no...and I have the right to do so.....I wouldnt have a problem with him coming on days he is not scheduled to get him.....if he put forth the effort on the days he should have him....our child is not at his convenience..anyone would say thats not how it works...there has to be a schedule..to keep it as normal as it can for the child...it kills me to tell my son.."no daddys not comin today" and watch him cry about it and his father make him a promise to come get him next time....that is why I am so mad at him and feel if he isnt going to have him he when he should then he needs to help me out here with what I need........and its not my mothers job to watch our son when his father wont come to get him or so I can work.....I am not going to ask her to do that...its my sons father and my job to find someone to watch him and if I cant afford a sitter on my own then he needs to help out with that...I am not asking for anything else just for him to help pay for a sitter..so I can work...I have already lost one job before I even had it because of his not wanting to take my son.....I had an interview and he was supposed to pick our son up and called me hey I cant come and get him...I have to run some place(of course I got pissed and yelled at him about it and I told him he needed to come get him I had to go some place it was very important but he was like sorry cant I call u before I come to get him)......So I have to call the place and ask if there is any way I can change it to a diffrent time...of course they ask why..so I have to tell them why(I say my sons father had an emergency(lie) and there first question is how often is this going to happen...do u have a babysitter......and of course I have to lie and say I do have a sitter and nope it doesnt happen often...when really it does all the time..........they of course didnt want me to work there because they need someone who is reliable...but I do try to work at least enough so my son gets everything he needs....I do go with my mom to her jobs where I can take my son with me and I help her with her jobs...so there is some at least some income even if its from there. So yes this is why I am pissed at him and anyone in the right mind would be.....and yes I did check with my mom to see if she could watch him(even though its not her job) and she was working so she couldnt run home to watch him so I could make it to the interview....and yes she does work everyday...and yes she can go to work whenever she wants and we have worked out a schedule to where she could watch him if I needed her to(but not everyday)..and yes I have applyed at every place I would be able to work at even factory jobs workin on a line.....and no they can not work with those hours...but I cant say I can work other hours when I have noone to watch my son when they need me....I have to say I can work the hours I know I have someone to watch my son.....and sure I can call a babaysitter and have them watch my son but at the end of the week when they want me to pay them and I have no money to pay them there not going to watch him the next week for me to go to work...they want there pay at the end of every week...I have even asked(before they started babysitting) if they could wait until the following week when I would get my check to pay for the first week and they wont(yes I asked every sitter I called and they all said the same thing) And dont think I let my son see me bad mouth his father or anything because I dont think its right to do that.....Do I bad mouth him yes...but not in front of his child......... and when he leaves for 9 days(not being the first time) and says hey ur going to have our son extra(like anything is new)..I have to use up my vacation time or I loss it...so Im going to mass. for the time...I think to myself...how about u take the time and come get ur son for the days u have scheduled....but since u have him so much...nope take ur vacation...or even say hey instead of me taking him this day and this day can I have him this day and this day....and take him to mass. with him for 2 days(but he wont do that because then he would have to come back here and drop him off and then drive back to mass. because he still has time with his gf left........I have even offered to let him take our son instead of the time he has set up...which doesnt work for him...or he would be comin to get him...I said why dont u take him every weekend(because he only works every other weekend at his 2nd job) he said no he doesnt want him every weekend because(on his off weekends from his 2nd job he goes to his gf from thurs. to tues. which yes he is supposed to take his son thursday night but doesnt only comes back for tuesday night to get him sometimes)...........I hope this explains everything alittle bit better.
