I'll try to be brief with a complex situation, so to make a long horrible story short, I'm going to hit the highlights: * My ex (we were never married) and the step-mom (both of whom have only tried to slander and destroy me from the begining)threatened me to move outside of California because "they" were being forced to leave the rental they were in (a lie-step-mom wanted to move the business they own closer to "her" children from the different husbands she had had before. After being pushed and told I would lose my child if I didn't move too--I only agreed to go and "check things out". Nothing more. * When I found out that this State (Or.) was nothing like they said, I attempted to leave with our child and return to our home in Calif.,only to find that I was obstructed by stepmother's adding a second lock to our storage unit so we were unjustly kept from leaving. The police in this State would not file a report. * The step-mother has previously abused my child--giving them 2 BLACK EYES and a VERY LARGE SWOLLEN WELT on their back--this happened when our child was BARELY 4 YEARS OLD!~CPS did nothing--and all the court did was order no corporal punishment from the step-mom. * I believe our child's court appointed atty. was paid off by my ex as she has screamed at me whenever I try to approach her, blames me for actions that my ex and step-mom have done against me and my child, told the court that I have said things that I NEVER once have stated, adjusted our court order without the judge's approval--and my child told me that she is "afraid" of her. I requested a new court appointed atty. but was denied. * Now I am in calif and through hateful unjust actions (ask and I'll write details)my ex/step-mom kept my child from me for 7 months. Because I could not afford an atty at the time, the judge refused all of my exhibits and the documentation I have recorded FOR YEARS showing all of my ex's contempts of court's orders. My ex also had my child support cancelled (I hear he can't do this, but he did) * My ex filed an ex-parte when he found out that I had finally got in touch with a little girl he had ATTEMPTED TO RAPE WHEN SHE WAS ONLY 14 YEARS OLD! He tried to look me like I was showing our child porn (I wAS NOT) and a drug-user (I left my ex over his refusal to quit drugs-I took (and paid for myself) a hair follicle test which proved negative in all fields of drugs)I presented a detailed declaration from the little girl my ex tried to rape (now a woman)in court and the judge refused to acknowledge it. * The same judge ruled that California was an inconvenient forum and moved our case to oregon. (Calif. is our childs birth state and I have kept it as our main residence (Or. was a 2nd residence while we were forced into remaining there)We filed a MOtion to Reconsider (denied) and I have tried to appeal, but for whatever reasons (I'll find out tomorrow from my appellate atty.) it looks like our appeal will also be denied. * I know I am an excellent mother. I have many several declarations, (both from the past to the present)from people who have witnessed this. I am the primary parent with 60% of custodial time---this was not even considered--now my child is in a terrible school (bad academia, drug users around school, police paroling school daily); her health has been failing due to Or. being a heavily pollenated area (my ex denies our child's struggling to breathe at night--they also use to throw away our child's prescriptions from the doctor when I'd take her too!)I have documented EVERYTHING--but what good is it all if the judge won't accept it? * Now my child speaks to me in derogatory terms, (outbursts of anger and judgment, distrust and disapproval of anything I say or do, etc.)and I can't afford to live in Or. (I looked for work for 2 YEARS while I was there-NOTHING!there is tons of homeless, even for whole families, and with 30 years of dispatching experience I couldn't even find a job flipping burgers! THAT BAD!) I drive up every couple of months to spent a week or so with her, but this horrible situation is going to destroy the beautiful love we share and fast, and I cannot let it but I am desperate for help and no one answers my cries! I believe in shared parenting, and altho he refused it, our judge said that the Parenting Plan I submitted was "more than fair" regarding custodial time alotted to father. I have tried in every Christian way I know how to be reasonable for our child's sake, but they are only interested in separating and alienating my child from me. They won't even let me speak with her on the phone, 3 minutes is the average time we speak together. Please please help. I feel like I am dying. I cannot continue to "give in" to their attacks and threats,-- but what can I do?? not one of my efforts has made a difference in helping my child! Regardless, this cannot be made to continue or I will be severed from my precious child forever--and that is a completely unacceptable outcome!!!I WOULD RATHER DIE! PLEASE PLEASE I AM IN DIRE NEED OF HELP FOR MY CHILD! WHAT CAN I DO?? PLEASE TELL ME PLEASE HELP ME HELP MY CHILD BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE! God Bless anyone that offers us any kind of help!
