It is not only Fathers who lose custidy of their children due to bitter X's. I am a Lost Mother, by Lost I mean I lost, Not because I was an unfit Mother, or abusive, or Mentally deranged, just because I did not know the right people to say the right thing to perswade the judge to listen to me, I was not heard, I was ignored. You see they say it dose'nt happen, but it does, if your X remarries to someone who works for the court where you have to go and they know what to do to make you appear to be a Horrible person.Paper can do a lot of things, like leave a trail of heresay. I have two boys by my X, I have lost overnight vistations. I see my boys two days a month for eight hours, and I occasionally get to have lunch at their schools with them if they are present the day I go. My story is long and some say unbeleivable But I know I do not lie and it is my life as hard as it may be for me I do not know what to do. There is a twist,I lost custidy of my Boys in one county, where in another county My Husband, near the same time, got custidy of his son that I now raise. Due to drug addiction my Stepson's Mother did not want him. This is something I will never understand,while I have fought till I was blue in the face to have my Boys, she walked away from hers. I have ran out of Help. I still Hope everday that I can oneday agin kiss my Boys goodnight, and hug them tight and say a prayer that oneday everything will be alright. This is not my whole story but this is all I can bear at one time, I know the system needs change, there needs to be facts and answers not hear say and people to perswade. I lost in 2003, before the birth of my Son by my new Husband. I wish for his big Brothers to come home to us so that he will get to know them. I can not afford to give money to lawyers who don't care to see judges who don't listen, I know I wiil allways be their Mother and I will see them every time I can. I will not give up on them, even if all I can do is pray.
