"I don't want to enter into any of the contentious issues going on with the "challenging" woman on this thread, if possible.
Having said that I am going to throw in a backhanded compliment for her, which I hope doesn't ellicit a direct response, but has more impact with others.
We've seen her criticise Kenya's partner for the alienation being amply described in his daughter's case. She's said he's at fault with no evidence other than she thinks she can read his responsibility into the daughter's words.
Here's the "compliment" now - I've laboured this far through my life (54 years) thinking that people might have some degree of sympathy for others in difficult situations. You've proven to me how wrong I've been over all these years. You have no sympathy for him, as he's got to be to blame for his misfortune over his daughter hasn't he, that's what you think or are prepared to say whether its true or not.
I now believe you are not alone in this attitude. In fact it may even be prevalent amongst those who make up family law professionals (quite a revelation to me inspite of the fact I now realise I witnessed this attitude in the court welfare officers who condemned me).
However, all that being said, everyone on this thread, and in the wider community, who carry on emphasing the interests of the daughter, and how Kenya's partner shouldn't give up on her, provide sustenance to your position I believe. Whether he's to blame for his daughter's behaviour, or totally innocent of any blame so many of you think he must nonetheless take it all on the chin, and continue to do everything he can for her, ironically even if its impossible for him to do anything. Does it even matter establishing whether he's to blame or not, given you think he should be "jumping through hoops" for his child regardless?
Even I would tell him to try to leave the door open to a reconciliation if he can, and maybe cool things for now as some others have said, but unlike the rest of you my attitude isn't founded on claiming I care about his daughter, so much my feeling as to the unnecessary injustice the father's being subjected to. There are a thousand and one factors surrounding the upbringing of his daughter that Kenya's partner can have no say in now he's split from her mother, any one of them may adversely affect the daughter. She may even do very well as mine has done, and lets hope so (I wish her no harm obviously, much as I object to her disrespectful behaviour). Perhaps Kenya's partner will be able to content himself that his efforts to date have given his daughter sufficient feelings of self worth to achieve great things, although I doubt all his negative feelings for his treatment and alienation/vilification will be allayed by this though.
I think that's all I've got to say (did someone hint I've been too long winded earlier - okay I'll put my hands up to that!)."
Graham